Tuesday, January 03, 2017

Prep junior for success ― Teach him how to fail!

You’ve cooed to, cuddled and coddled your baby since birth, but now that he’s growing up, he’s getting familiar with the school of hard knocks. Junior is falling (literally and figuratively), not winning soccer games, failing tests, striking out and forgetting his lines at the school play.

It’s hard to watch him get hurt and you want nothing more than to intervene and make his troubles go away. But as any wise parent knows, one of the kindest things you can do for your kiddo is to prep him for the realities of the real world ― and learning how to manage failure is one of the most vital lessons he’ll acquire.

“Life is all about problem solving and we can only turn into happy adults if we learn how to overcome painful thoughts and emotions and how to heal and move out of unhappiness,” notes Cornelia Dahinten family coach and director of The Parent You Want To Be ― Conscious Parenting Training and Playgroups. “For that to happen, you have to be unhappy first.”

About the biggest disservice you can do for your little one is to fix his problems. This only creates an unrealistic expectation of life, worse, your child will be distressed on entering the real world, only to encounter setbacks, which could be a job loss or getting a divorce. Full story...

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